Is it wrong to be busy?

I apologize for being away, but my excuse is nothing more than just being busy. From finalizing work projects before my baby is born in January to decorating our Christmas tree, my list of things to do seems to have consumed the last 10 days!

As I sat down with my therapist (by the way, I see no shame in telling people I see a therapist…) and discussed my never ending to-do list, she asked me why I felt the need to be busy all the time.

Interesting question, I thought, and paused to think about my answer.

“I like being busy,” I responded.

It’s true. I enjoy filling my off time trying new things like recipes and am always looking for a new book to add to my “books to read in the future” book list. I like having many interests and feel driven by a constant state of wanting to be knowledgeable and well-rounded.

Is it wrong to be busy most of the time?

Over the last year I have been working on managing my own personal expectations and becoming comfortable saying no to projects or people when I become overwhelmed. But when it comes to my interests, must I slow down?

My mindset about life has shifted, as I have come to realize my life is pretty exciting. Maybe not exciting to some, but really exciting for ME. Sure, there are days which consume me and I regress back to my once negative attitude about life (hence the therapist). But as I focus on what drives me to a state of joy and happiness, the busyness of life becomes exciting rather than burdening.

Do not let your passion in life become a burden. Intense times will rear their ugly head but keep your goal in mind, whatever it may be!

  • Set small goals
  • Surround yourself with at least one sincere person who supports your interests
  • Do not apologize for having a passion for your career, your kids, your home, hobbies, your garden, etc… This is important to YOU and that is what matters
  • Be proud of yourself- strut a little!

There are times to stay put, and what you want will come to you, and there are times to go out into the world and find such a thing for yourself. Lemony Snicket

4 thoughts on “Is it wrong to be busy?

  1. Absolutely wonderful and so accurate post. Life is what we make of it. I prefer to be busy on some days, while other days I prefer to be more relaxed. Finding a balance of these days is what keeps me both happy and productive.

  2. As usual I find myself nodding my head as I read through your post! It always feels as though I have a million things on the go, and never enough time to accomplish it all… but most of the time I can deal with it (sometimes it makes me a little frantic!) – because they are things I am passionate about – things that I know are bringing me ever closer to my goals.

    Sometimes it is hard for me to relax, because I have that ever-present list of ‘to-dos’… but I think (hope) that in 30 years time I’ll look back at where I am now and be pleased that I was filling my life with things that were important to me – trying to drink in as much of life as I can!

    H xo

    • Hana, I feel very similar to you in your statement about looking back…I want to remember the positive obsessions I had, not things like cleaning up my house or worrying about money. I know it will just take a little time to change my mindset and focus on my passions rather than the dishes. :)

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