I apologize for being away, but my excuse is nothing more than just being busy. From finalizing work projects before my baby is born in January to decorating our Christmas tree, my list of things to do seems to have consumed the last 10 days!
As I sat down with my therapist (by the way, I see no shame in telling people I see a therapist…) and discussed my never ending to-do list, she asked me why I felt the need to be busy all the time.
Interesting question, I thought, and paused to think about my answer.
“I like being busy,” I responded.
It’s true. I enjoy filling my off time trying new things like recipes and am always looking for a new book to add to my “books to read in the future” book list. I like having many interests and feel driven by a constant state of wanting to be knowledgeable and well-rounded.
Is it wrong to be busy most of the time?
Over the last year I have been working on managing my own personal expectations and becoming comfortable saying no to projects or people when I become overwhelmed. But when it comes to my interests, must I slow down?
My mindset about life has shifted, as I have come to realize my life is pretty exciting. Maybe not exciting to some, but really exciting for ME. Sure, there are days which consume me and I regress back to my once negative attitude about life (hence the therapist). But as I focus on what drives me to a state of joy and happiness, the busyness of life becomes exciting rather than burdening.
Do not let your passion in life become a burden. Intense times will rear their ugly head but keep your goal in mind, whatever it may be!
- Set small goals
- Surround yourself with at least one sincere person who supports your interests
- Do not apologize for having a passion for your career, your kids, your home, hobbies, your garden, etc… This is important to YOU and that is what matters
- Be proud of yourself- strut a little!
There are times to stay put, and what you want will come to you, and there are times to go out into the world and find such a thing for yourself. Lemony Snicket